Not vent feelings - #9781

Hi Rozi, I’m really sorry to hear that you’re feeling this way. I can sense that the stress and frustration from being alone and managing things on your own are really taking a toll on your mental well-being. It’s completely understandable that you’d feel overwhelmed, especially when you're also missing your husband and trying to balance it all. Here’s a more personal approach to what you’re going through, with some ideas to help: **1. Acknowledge Your Emotions** First off, **it’s okay to feel this way**. You’re juggling a lot, and it’s natural to feel stressed and frustrated when you’re carrying those emotions alone. Being able to name and recognize what you’re feeling is a huge first step in moving forward. **Be kind to yourself**, you don’t need to have it all figured out. It’s alright to feel angry and frustrated sometimes. **2. Find Ways to Connect with Your Husband** I understand that your husband’s job keeps him away, and that can be really hard. Try setting up regular calls or video chats, even if it’s just for a few minutes. **Talking with him about how you’re feeling**—even though he might not be physically present—can make you feel supported and less isolated. You can share your frustrations and also plan small things for the future when he’s home, like a day out or a special moment together, to look forward to. **3. Managing Anger and Stress** You’ve mentioned that anger and frustration are coming up a lot, which is really common when you feel stuck. Let’s try a few simple ways to release that tension: - **Deep breathing exercises**: Take 5 minutes to close your eyes, breathe deeply, and exhale slowly. This can calm your nervous system and lower stress. - **Mindfulness or meditation**: Even 5 minutes a day can help clear your mind. Apps like Headspace or Calm offer guided sessions to help you relax. - **Physical activity**: Taking a short walk or doing stretches can release built-up tension in your body and improve your mood. Even a few minutes of movement can help you feel more energized and clear-headed. **4. Build a Support System** It’s important to reach out to someone who can help carry the emotional weight with you. **Friends or family members**, even if it’s just for a quick chat, can provide emotional relief. They care about you, and it’s okay to lean on them when you need it. If possible, you could also look into having a friend or family member stay with you for a few days to help break up that feeling of isolation. **5. Seek Professional Help if Needed** If your feelings continue to feel overwhelming and it’s starting to impact your mental health, I strongly recommend **speaking with a therapist**. Therapy isn’t just for crises—it’s a way to get practical advice on managing emotions, frustrations, and stress. A professional can also help with managing anger in a healthy way and help you feel less overwhelmed by your thoughts. 6. Practice Self-Care** When you’re in a stressful situation, it’s easy to forget to take care of yourself. But self-care is key to healing. You can try: - Taking a **relaxing bath** or spending time in nature to clear your mind. - **Pampering yourself** with skincare or doing something creative you enjoy. - **Setting a routine** for yourself, even simple things like having regular meals or taking time to rest, can bring a sense of control and peace. Suggestions for Anger Management**: You mentioned anger issues, and I completely understand how that can build up when you feel isolated. Some **anger management techniques** that might help: - **Count to 10**: Before reacting, count slowly to 10. It gives you time to pause and calm yourself. - **Physical release**: Try a quick release like punching a pillow, hitting a punching bag, or just shaking out the tension. - **Talking it out**: Sometimes when you feel frustrated, just talking it out with someone you trust can help release that energy. Take Small Steps Each Day:** Every small step towards managing your stress will help. Whether it’s a breathing exercise, calling a friend, or just resting for a while, each little act is a move towards feeling better. Be patient with yourself—things won’t change overnight, but each effort you make adds up. You're doing your best, and that’s enough. Rozi, you are not alone in this, even though it can feel that way sometimes. **You deserve support, rest, and understanding**. If you’d like, I can also help guide you with **stress-reducing techniques**, or **provide a more detailed self-care routine** that fits into your life. Just let me know! Dr Shayeque Reza MD 9800280276