Kleptomaniac - #9013
For as long as I can remember, I’ve had this urge to take things that don’t belong to me. I never really understood why, but I always thought it was just something minor, maybe just a bad habit. The first time I noticed it was in my early teens when I’d take little items from stores or from people I knew without any real reason. It wasn’t about needing the items or wanting to sell them—it was just something I couldn’t stop doing. As I got older, it became more frequent, and even though I feel terrible about it afterward, I still find myself stealing things without thinking. It’s like I can’t control the urge, and I feel a rush of relief when I do it, only to feel deep shame and regret later on. I’ve always been really careful about not getting caught. I’ve never stolen anything large or expensive, but I can’t shake the feeling that something’s wrong. A few months ago, I finally decided to talk to a therapist about what was going on, and after a few sessions, she mentioned that I might be a kleptomaniac. At first, I was confused because I didn’t realize that it was actually a mental health issue, something called kleptomania. She explained that kleptomaniac behavior is characterized by a repeated urge to steal, which isn’t motivated by financial gain but rather by an impulse that’s difficult to control. I was surprised to hear that it was actually a recognized disorder, and I’m starting to feel like maybe this is a bigger issue than I thought. What worries me the most is the feeling of losing control. When I steal, it’s not even about the item—it’s about the need to act on the impulse. Sometimes, I feel guilty right after, but other times, it’s like I’m caught in the moment, and afterward, I feel this overwhelming urge to hide what I’ve done or pretend like nothing happened. I’m worried that this could spiral out of control and lead to legal or social consequences, especially because I have friends and family who would be devastated if they knew. I guess I’m asking, how can I start dealing with this issue? Is there any treatment or therapy that can help someone who has kleptomaniac tendencies? I’ve heard of cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), but I’m not sure if that would work for me. I’ve tried avoiding situations where I’m tempted to steal, but it hasn’t really helped in the long run. I feel like I’m stuck, and I don’t know what steps I should take next. Should I be focusing on understanding the triggers that lead to these urges, or is it more about learning to resist them when they come? I really don’t want this problem to get worse, but I’m scared that I won’t be able to stop it on my own. If anyone has experience with kleptomaniac behavior or has gone through treatment for it, I’d love to hear how you coped and what worked for you.
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